Our wedding rings are from Mustafa! I absolutely love the intricate handiwork on mine. Graham was very skeptical about a gold ring — especially one this thick — but eventually came around. Now we both find his ring very old-fashioned, very cool and I don’t think anyone can pull it off as well as he does!
Why Mustafa? We both volunteer at a clinic that provides affordable healthcare to the migrant workers in Singapore. This clinic is right smack in, you guess it, Little India. I thought it’d be meaningful to get our rings from the locale whose people we’re trying to serve and reach with the gospel.
Why gold? Well you really don’t have much choice when it comes to the metal of choice for Indians — everything’s bright shiny gold! But I like it. I prefer gold to silver; it’s a much better complement for Asian skin.
Where’s my diamond ring? I didn’t want one and told Graham that he need only to propose — this is an expression of the guy’s commitment and risk-taking leadership in the relationship which is biblical. However, he need not bring a diamond ring, which is not biblical and therefore optional.
Practically it means he was ready to propose when he was willing to assume a lifelong responsibility for me — which is what a woman really wants right? — and not when he’s earned enough money to get me a diamond ring. Graham was fresh out of university when he proposed, why make things more difficult when the proposal is stressful enough?
That said, if money is not a problem, and as long as it’s not an excuse to flaunt your wealth, then by all means, get a diamond ring if it’s what the lady likes! But don’t get a diamond ring just because the world says it’s necessary and if it doesn’t cost the guy at least three months’ worth of his salary, he is not being sincere.
I’m not making it up, I actually read that in wedding forums. The discussion threads were full of brides comparing their diamonds and stressed-out boyfriends asking how much he should be prepared to fork out.
So, let us think very carefully about how we use the money God gives us and examine our motivations. A wedding is a joyous occasion where a man and a woman becomes one, but it’s not an excuse to forget prudence and restrain.