Are house-husbands acceptable when the wife is career-minded and the husband doesn’t mind anyway? In some cases, the guy can even outdo his wife at domestic affairs!
Though this cannot be further from the truth in my case (haha sorry sweets! you are so good at other things though), I’ve been thinking about it. If only so that I know how to speak the truth when the issue comes up again in conversations.
Titus 2.3-5 has this to say:
“Older women… are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.”
According to sound doctrine (v1), one of our primary responsibility as women is to care for the home. It’s nothing to do with culturally-bound male chauvinist oppression of women; rather it’s the role God has designed for women. It’s also proper gospel living because we are told that when we make our home our priority, we beautify the word of God and protect it from scorn.
This command doesn’t prohibit women from working outside. But it means the home, and not her job, should be her preoccupation. Her best attention, time, and energy must be reserved for her husband and children.
I haven’t really met a career-minded woman who is able to do that (it’s quite a feat, really!), though there may very well be a few. But until I understand the real-life situations that people are in, I’m hesitant to rule out the possibility of house-husbands.
Probably ‘career woman’ needs to be better defined — does it just mean an employed woman with a full-time job? Does being a successful woman in the corporate world necessarily mean neglecting family? And what if the husband happens to be in a season of life where he can afford more time to take care of the home?
But one thing is for sure. If we are eager and willing to conform to the word of God, then there’s no better time than when we are single to learn how to work at home and prepare ourselves to be godly wives and mothers.
I leave you with this quote from a series of messages I’m following:
“…much of the world would agree that being a housekeeper is acceptable as long as you are not caring for your own home; treating men with attentive devotion would also be right as long as the man is the boss in the office and not your husband; caring for children would even be deemed heroic service for which presidential awards could be given as long as the children are someone else’s and not your own. We must not be overcome by the surrogacy of this age, which offers even a substitute womb for those so encumbered by lofty pursuits that they cannot accept God-given roles and assignments.” — Dorothy Patterson, quoted in Carolyn Mahaney’s To Teach What is Good